When I was a bride to be, I lived and died by The Knot. I got so much help, support and great advice from The Knot message boards. So much so, that I credit a lot of my wedding's final outcome to the influence of that board. So naturally I've toodled around on The Nest boards. It's mildly interesting, I've posted every now and again.
So now, as we look to the future, I've started poking around on The Bump message boards. Just poking people, I can verify with 100% certitude that I am not currently knocked up. Also, I am holding a beer as I type this sooooo yeah, don't read into this too much. Just been on my mind since so many of my peers are starting families right now.
Most people I know had very little difficulty getting pregnant (or so they claim). Many of them say they got pregnant right away, on their first try. While I'm still warming up to the whole idea of housing another human being inside me for 9 months, getting knocked up right away does not sound great. I'd like to try for a bit, that's half the fun right? I'm a firm believer that it's not about the destination, it's about the journey.
So I started poking around on the Trying to Conceive board and boy is my mind BLOWN. I know, I'm increadibly naieve and probably half the people who say they got pregnant right away are liars or weren't trying at all, but all the charting and the ovulation testing is really throwing me for a loop. I thought that when the time came, we'd just do our thing for a while until one morning I peed on a stick and saw a plus sign or a smiley face or whatever the crap they have.
I've occasionally peed on an ovulation strip out of sheer boredom, never am I ovulating*. There's nothing on TV....I wonder if I'm ovulating...I'm gonna go pee on a stick and find out...Note I keep ovulation tests in the house because I had to spend my FSA on something at the end of last year. I heard these are expensive so I stocked up. What? That's normal, right? They don't expire for like 3 years, I figured I might need them in that time frame, I think it's a safe bet.
*Note that in no way am I doing this in any kind of methodical fashion or am I in any way shape or form in my monthly ovulation window, so it's no reason to be alarmed/concerned. SHEER BOREDOM PEOPLE.
I don't want to take my temperature daily. I don't want to chart it on a handy little app on my iPhone that sends my husband and I text messages or "booty calls" to let us know it's time to try. I don't want to cry when I get my period. I just want to live and let nature take its course. But as I read these messages, some of these ladies have been trying for a year. A year! I'm all hippie zen now, but where am I going to be a year from now? The mayor of Baby Crazytown?
I guess it's just sinking in that maybe this will be hard. Maybe I will have no control over the situation. Maybe our bodies will just have limitations. And we'll figure out how far we're willing to go for a tyke or two of our own when the time comes. But wow, you spend so long trying NOT to get pregnant. And then there you are, failing at something the girls on 16 and Pregnant obviously excelled at. Kind of scary isn't it?